“Difficult but possible is the key. That’s because more difficult goals cause you to, often unconsciously, increase your effort, focus, and commitment to the goal; persist longer; and make better use of the most effective strategies.”
― Heidi Grant Halvorson, Succeed: How We Can Reach Our Goals
This quote is a common theme and way of thinking that I completely buy into and how I live my life. This is also how I raise my children. I teach them about challenging themselves. I teach them that give full effort to things. To continually practice and work hard to improve. I also model this in my life as best as I can. Persist longer.
“Focus on the moment, not the monsters that may or may not be up ahead.”
― Ryan Holiday, The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Adversity to Advantage
This picture was at the end of the final workout of the 2013 Socal Regional and the last time I competed as an individual at Regionals. This was a rough year. Over the years I have reflected on this weekend and learned a ton. In the moment it was like a nightmare as I finished in 9th place at the end of the weekend.
This is one of my favorite quotes. We are afraid of the unknown. The monsters that may or may not lie ahead. It paralyzes us. It stops us in our tracks. It keeps us from moving. We are afraid of something that may or may not even exist. We need to focus on the moment. On each individual moment. We need to be present. We need to move.
“Humility does not mean weakness, but its opposite. Leaders with mana understand the strength of humility. It allows them to connect with their deepest values and the wider world.”
― James Kerr, Legacy
What’s interesting about Humility is that to the immature it seems weak but that is only on the surface. Underneath is discipline, self-control, kindness and compassion. It requires more strength to be confident in yourself and respectful to others than it does to be boastful and proud.
“Struggle is not optional—it’s neurologically required: in order to get your skill circuit to fire optimally, you must by definition fire the circuit sub optimally; you must make mistakes and pay attention to those mistakes; you must slowly teach your circuit. You must also keep firing that circuit—i.e., practicing—in order to keep myelin functioning properly. After all, myelin is living tissue.”
― Daniel Coyle, The Talent Code: Unlocking the Secret of Skill in Sports, Art, Music, Math, and Just About Everything Else
Struggle is REQUIRED. Another incredible book that I highly recommend. Slow down. Practice deliberately and repeatedly. Seek out things that challenge you and continue to work on them. Rather than wanting it to get easy. We NEED the challenge to gradually and continually increase in order for us to continue to grow. Myelin is a living tissue. I LOVE THIS!
“Success is not a random act. It arises out of a predictable and powerful set of circumstances and opportunities.”
― Malcolm Gladwell, Outliers: The Story of Success
If you have not read this book I can’t recommend it enough.
I really like and agree with it. Being successful is not random. It is something that is developed. I look at my boys. Granted they are still very young, 10 & 7. But they are advanced when it comes to sports and athletics compared to other kids their age. People say to my wife and I that they are ‘naturals’ and ‘gifted’. I am not so sure about that. What I see is the hours of play and practice they have put into sports and CrossFit since they were able to walk. They are homeschooled and have literally grown up at our gym. They have logged more hours playing sports than anyone who is going to public school can because they are literally allowed to and encouraged to play outside with each other. They have put in the hours and years of practice already at such a young age so they appear to be naturals. That coupled with the focus on eating properly and teaching them a growth mindset has led to them being exceptional in what they have worked/played for.